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( Willing To Be Vulnerable )
Good stuff, as always. especially as I see a number of pals struggling with the idea that *asking* for what they need, or communicating their feelings clearly isn't "imposing" or "rude" or "selfish". I struggle with that one too.
If one is not clear about one's wants or needs or feelings, one has very little chance of seeing them adressed by the people in one's life.
And so often we do this because we feel that we aren't worthy of having them adressed. Or that people will reject us for *daring* to ask for stuff, or for being who we are, rather than who they would have us be. Authenticity can be scary. Vulnerability is all kinds of scary. But by holding back, you deny the people around you the opportunity to choose to meet those needs or not. You've decided *for* them, that they can't or won't, or could never "handle it"...
"better to be hated for what you *are*, than to be loved for what you are *not*."
Good stuff, as always. especially as I see a number of pals struggling with the idea that *asking* for what they need, or communicating their feelings clearly isn't "imposing" or "rude" or "selfish". I struggle with that one too.
If one is not clear about one's wants or needs or feelings, one has very little chance of seeing them adressed by the people in one's life.
And so often we do this because we feel that we aren't worthy of having them adressed. Or that people will reject us for *daring* to ask for stuff, or for being who we are, rather than who they would have us be. Authenticity can be scary. Vulnerability is all kinds of scary. But by holding back, you deny the people around you the opportunity to choose to meet those needs or not. You've decided *for* them, that they can't or won't, or could never "handle it"...
"better to be hated for what you *are*, than to be loved for what you are *not*."
